That little voice in your head sure has a lot to say. But is it helping or hurting your chances to lose weight and live your life to the fullest?
Find out what things you are saying to yourself and others that are holding you back. You’ll be surprised!
To learn how this works, let’s first see how words can destroy weight loss progress…
Last year, our Weight Loss Coaches worked with six ladies lose weight for their big day. They were participating in our Altered! Wedding Weight Loss Challenge, and all of them were doing really well.
Until one week in particular. Their weight loss had slowed down. During their check-in meeting, their conversations shifted in a curious way.
Our Weight Loss Coaches noted the shift, and wrote down all the things the brides had said during that meeting. The following week, the brides came in and were faced with a board filled with quotes.
They were confused. Why were those nasty comments on that board?
Eventually, our team asked each of the brides to claim their comments from last week. Recognizing what they said, some of them shyly approached the board and took their quote down.
But most of them had to be reminded which was theirs. They were shocked they had even said those words!
They each sat quietly with their comments in hand. And broke down crying.
The following week, the brides came in with a fresh perspective and weighed in…
…and the results were double what they were the previous weeks!
Sonay lost 42 pounds in 8 weeks and WON last year’s Altered challenge after our Weight Loss Coaches shared these tricks. Learn more by clicking on her image!
Psst… we are kicking off our Altered! 2016 reality series right now! Here’s your SNEAK PEEK to the first episode!
So… do any of the quotes below sound familiar to you?
1. “I’m sorry”
Listen in to any conversation between someone who is trying to eat healthier and someone who is not, and you will hear the strangest thing. An apology.
Even if you aren’t directly saying the words “I’m sorry” in the examples below, you can still hear it:
I’m sorry to ask, but could you serve broccoli instead of fries with my steak?
I’m sorry, I can’t have any alcohol on my program.”
I’m the one who brought the veggie platter, I just wanted to make sure I had something to eat at the party.
Why are you apologizing? There is nothing wrong with eating well and taking care of your health.
Unless you have done someone or something wrong, you need to drop I’m sorry from your vocabulary.
It’s unnecessary to any conversation you might have about improving your life. Drop it and you will sound more committed and direct about your goals –and exactly how you are going to reach them.
Over time, you will be able to hear your apologetic tone too– the times when you are not using the words, but you are still saying I’m sorry. When you start to hear that tone, start working on making straight forward statements.
Watch your life change when people hear your true message, not an apology.
2. “I’m so fat”
Walk into any fitting room, and from behind the doors you can hear this murmured by women as they talk to each other.
More troubling, when your gorgeously fit friend emerges from the pool change room, you compliment the fit of her bathing suit or even the how it brings out the color of her eyes…
Women are especially guilty of using this sympathy-invoking phrase. It is an attempt to fit in. They think that if they put themselves down that other women will like them more.
But you’ve heard “I’m so fat” a million times from your friends. You have even said it yourself. So you know the irony of this game. Every time you hear them tell you how fat they are, you like them just a little bit less.
Delete this phrase from your lexicon. It only damages your self-esteem– and your friendships. Instead, find a new phrase or compliment you can issue that is not body-centric.
I like this dress, but the cut is not right for me.
Thank you for saying that, it means a lot, coming from someone who has an appreciation for color.
3. “Do I look fat in this?”
We are all familiar with this notorious marital joke. It’s funny to talk about because it’s the most impossible question to answer.
Dayna from last year’s Altered Wedding Weight Loss challenge was able to change the way she talked to herself… and look at the results! WOW!
Do you want to feel like this when you are getting ready for a night on the town?
Click on her image to get the results you really want (and the chance to win a free box of food)!
So rather than asking the spouse, you turn to friends and confidantes as a way to get an honest response. Of course, they will tell you the truth …or will they?
Why ask this question at all?
You are pinning your self-esteem on whether they think you look ‘fat’ or not. Yes, we all love to look great.
But that isn’t determined by an assessment of our ‘fatness.’
Why aren’t you asking if you look fashionable? Regal? Confident? Ready for a night out?
Those questions CAN be honestly answered. And wouldn’t the answers to these questions be more revealing about how you look in your outfit?
If you really do need to ask this question, get your barometer jeans out and try them on. Rather than defaulting to “do I look fat in these jeans?,” make an objective judgment of how tight or loose they are fitting.
If you don’t like how tight they are, you know what you can do to change things.
4. “I can’t do it”
Life has a way of throwing us curveballs, stressing us out and making us believe that everything is so damn difficult.
Chantal had a ton of curveballs thrown at her during her Altered! challenge. She was diagnosed with lupus and told that her medications would make her GAIN weight.
Look what she did instead…
When you focus on how far away your goal is, you start to forget the pathway right under your feet.
But there is no reason to quit. The big rewards are often just around the corner. You are here, this far along. You can make it a little bit further right now, today.
All you need to do is move one step closer. Stay focused on small, daily routines. That’s what makes this lifestyle easier than other, more complicated programs on the market.
20-minute walk done? Check.
Personal Trainer Food lunch packed in your cooler for work? Check.
Stocked up on mixed greens and full-fat dressings? Check.
Those are dead easy things to do no matter what else is going on in your life. Even if you can’t quite see the summit, keep following the trail and you will get there.
5. “I’m not good enough for ___”
This toxic belief sits at the root of many of our problems in life.
Even if you don’t say it aloud, you probably think it when you see someone who is fitter, lives in a bigger home, or drives a nicer car than you.
The automatic conclusion is that you are different from that person; and that a healthier body and better life is for other people, not you.
Now granted, we might all have a different hand of cards to deal with, but you are good enough to live a happy life. To go on that cruise and feel great in your party clothes. To take control of your health. To play with your grand kids.
You are deserving of all life has to offer.
If you find this thought entering your mind, remind yourself who is in control of that little voice. Silence it and you will stop undermining yourself.
6. “I hate myself”
Oddly, many people try to motivate themselves to start losing weight by saying “I hate how I look.”
It’s great to decide to change, but basing your motivation on hatred and shame is a bummer way to get started on a program.
Why would you ever say you hate yourself? You wouldn’t tell your best friend you hate them, robbing them of their trust, confidence, and happiness.
Instead, you would be their biggest cheerleader, wouldn’t you? You’d be excited for them, and happy that they are taking steps towards their goal. You want them to live wonderful life!
You want the same for yourself, don’t you?
Amanda (below) was one of last year’s Altered challengers who was guilty of saying this. She eliminated “I hate myself” from her way of thinking and look at the results she got!
Click on her image to see this year’s results in real-time. We guarantee, they will be nothing short of amazing!
Another point where it is tempting to say “I hate myself” is if you ever slip up or cheat. This is a self-defeating tactic, and will only lead you further off target.
Pick yourself up and leave your mistakes in the past. There is no need to wallow in self-loathing. Doing so will not help you progress past your slip up.
Rather than telling yourself hateful things when you fail, tell yourself what you are going to accomplish or achieve in the next few hours or day. It should be something that you look forward to, like…
I am going to enjoy my next on-program meal.
I haven’t walked the dog this week. I’m going to take my kids and dog for a family walk this afternoon.
I am going to the store to find some new flavors of herbal teas and water enhancers to try out.
7. “I don’t have time”
When people call in, panicked that their weight loss has stalled, our Weight Loss Coaches are quick to troubleshoot and pinpoint the problem.
Nine times out of ten, these people reveal to us that they are not walking 20-minutes every day.
I don’t have time.
You need to stop saying this to yourself (or a Weight Loss Coach). It takes a mere 32 minutes a day to lose weight with Personal Trainer Food.
That’s 20 minutes to walk, and three meals heated in your microwave at 4 minutes a meal.
Dr. Mo, one of last year’s Altered challengers was able to find time to eat right– even with her crazy rounds.
Moreover, you can multi-task during those 32 minutes. 20 minutes of walking on a treadmill can get you caught up on your social media, the news, or the book you need to read.
While your food is heating, 3-4 minutes is enough time to take out the trash, sweep the floors, or feed the dog.
If you can’t find 32 minutes a day to eat and walk, then you are simply not making weight loss and getting to your goal a priority.
Tell yourself you DO have time, and make it happen!
8. “I don’t have money”
Money and time kind of work the same way. The more you make your goals a priority, the more money and time sort themselves out for you.
When figuring out the actual cost of Personal Trainer Food, many people get the math wrong.
They assume that they will be spending over and above their budget by purchasing a program. But any cost is hugely offset by the fact that grocery and restaurant bills are almost nil while on the program.
With Personal Trainer Food, you have more money than you think!
Furthermore, what do you really save when you are no longer buying foods that make you overweight, sick, and unhappy? What price tag would you put on feeling happy, energetic, and confident about your life?
Right, there is no price tag—but Personal Trainer Food gives you that for just a few dollars a day.
Time = money, and the convenience of Personal Trainer Food saves both.
(GOOD NEWS! We increased our Loyalty Rewards to $125, saving returning customers even more after their first order.)
9. “It’s just too late”
But it’s too late to try?
You are never too old, too sick, or too overweight to try.
If you can think about your goals, you must take action to get to them. What other choice do you have?
To give up?
Right. Remember that you deserve every wonderful thing possible in your life.
Maybe things do, in fact get harder the longer you put them off. But you have a shot at getting to your goals– by shifting yourself out of reverse and into forward gear.
Jan is a 14-year veteran in the fitness industry and has personally coached and trained thousands of people to live fit and healthy lives around the world. 100 pounds ago, she knew exactly what it is like to be obese, sick and unhappy, feeling like there was nothing that could be done about the excess fat she had gained. That is why she couldn’t be happier to be a part of the Personal Trainer Food team today. She has successfully and permanently lost the fat using the principles of this program.